We live in an age of “continuous partial attention.” Even when we are physically present at a dinner table or a meeting, a significant portion of our cognitive bandwidth is tethered to the device in our pocket. At The Parish Room, we decided to do something radical: we asked our members to put the world on hold.
Our “Phone-Away” policy isn’t about being antiquated; it’s about the cutting-edge science of human psychology. By creating a digital-free sanctuary, we allow our 100+ members to experience a mental clarity that is increasingly rare in the United States.
The “Phantom Ring” and Cognitive Load
Research suggests that the mere presence of a smartphone—even if it’s turned over or silenced—reduces our cognitive capacity. The brain has to actively work to not check the device, creating a subtle but constant “brain drain.”
When you enter The Parish Room and store your device, that cognitive load is instantly lifted. This is why conversations in our lounge feel deeper and why our library feels so restorative. You aren’t just relaxing; you are literally reclaiming your brain’s ability to focus.
The Return of the “Flow State”
Most modern social interactions are interrupted every 6 to 12 minutes by a notification. This prevents us from ever reaching a “Flow State”—that feeling of being completely immersed in a task or a conversation.
Within our walls, the “Flow State” is the standard. Whether you are enjoying a 5-star tasting event or debating a new business venture, the absence of digital interruptions allows for a level of presence that makes time feel like it’s slowing down. This “time expansion” is one of the most cited benefits our members report after an evening at the club.
Lowering the Cortisol of Connection
Digital connectivity keeps us in a state of low-level “fight or flight,” waiting for the next email, the next headline, or the next alert. By removing the screens, we lower the collective cortisol levels of the room.
In this “unplugged” environment, social anxiety decreases and genuine empathy increases. You aren’t just looking at a person; you are seeing them. You aren’t just hearing them; you are listening. This is what we call Radical Presence, and it is the foundation of every meaningful relationship built within the club.
Privacy as the Ultimate Luxury
Finally, there is the psychological safety of privacy. In an era where every moment is a potential “post,” the knowledge that what happens in The Parish Room stays in The Parish Room is liberating. Our members can speak freely, act authentically, and relax completely, knowing there are no cameras or recording devices to perform for.
Reconnect by Disconnecting
The Paradox of the 21st century is that the more “connected” we are digitally, the more isolated we feel. We invite you to experience the opposite. Come to The Parish Room, check your device at the door, and rediscover the profound joy of being entirely, unapologetically here.
